Many young parents worry, will grow their kid a whole person without siblings. WomanHit.ru gathered the main complaint against families in which one heir, and ready to argue with them
Somehow, in modern society, condemned the presence of the only child in the family. If your family has only one kid, you've probably heard the advice of relatives and friends well-wishers: "would you like another child to have?", "It will be difficult to establish contacts, But which one?" and stuff like that. Begin to intimidate, which, they say, will grow overgrown child, who will sit on your neck a good number of years.
Even if you yourself grew up in a family the only child, to resist public opinion is not very easy. You start to worry, and suddenly they're right and really the child will grow up weird. Let's face it, can incarnate these "nightmares" in life.
Myth #1. The only child is always spoiled
This fear has its basis, because when a child is only one, with all the focus on him. Parents do not skimp on resources, all your time is dedicated to him. However, the only children and the requirements above, as he is the only hope of the family. It begins to settle and demand a lot more.
Social skills are virtually independent of the presence of brothers and centerphoto: pixabay.com/ru
Most likely, you have heard about the Chinese system, where family is allowed to have only one child. To five years the child is free to do anything, but then it waits for harsh parenting, which may not be ready for Western parents. Through this approach we know the Chinese as one of the most disciplined people in the world. So, as you can see, all depends on the policy of the family, and not on the presence of brothers and sisters.
Myth #2. The only children have problems with communication
According to most people, a child in a small family a priori uncommunicative. Where will these skills, as more time he spends with the parents? Is it really so? But think about it: do you know many brothers and sisters with a common interest? Yes, in the company of other children, the child will develop the team spirit in the process of sharing your child's "property," but this cannot be attributed to the adequate skills which are the basis of communication. It is not necessary to have a kindergarten at home, your child will be enough peers.
Only parents are responsible for the formation of lichnostyami: pixabay.com/ru
Myth #3. The child will grow up selfish
This quality tend to be small children. However, the older they become, the less they are allowed to show it. Parents should attend to this issue and not miss the moment when selfishness will actually interfere with the child, affecting their interactions with others. If a child is fixated on getting the sole attention, here is a question for parents who are unable to take the child under control, and none of the siblings will not help him. In addition, according to statistics, the most selfish grew up in large families where they were given the most attention.
Myth #4. The child is difficult to work in a team
Usually only children rarely hear "no" from parents. It is difficult for them to compromise, to share things and toys. However, as in the case of egocentricity, the parents are the ones responsible for the formation of a correct approach to life. Of course, the truth is that children from small families are more difficult to adapt in the team, but not enough to blame the absence of other children in the family. Worst of all in the team are the older children from large families, as their life is the responsibility of the younger, and they used to take unilateral decisions.
Children enough communication outside the home with kusamotu: pixabay.com/ru
Myth #5. Child will be immature
When one child in the family, he is only one example of his parents, which he is. Nowhere to gain "childish", as there is no children, therefore, the child will grow in a more conscious model. Infantilism may begin to emerge if the wrong approach in the education or because of the complex relationship of parents with their parents.
Remember that the personality of the children-the siblings have virtually no effect — only you can determine how your child will grow.Subscribe to our channel in Yandex.Zen